Changing the patterns in your life and in your environment creates change within you.
Dogs are such creatures of habit. I took my dog out last night—the-right-before-bed-last-time-out-to-pee thing. When we came back in, she immediately ran into the master bedroom and spent the night there.
She hasn’t done that in months because I don’t sleep in that room anymore. She has been sleeping with me else where, so why did she do that?
I suppose it’s because I took a long nap in that room and she (and the cat) curled up with me.
Was the first time I’d spent any time on that bed since the separation. She was back to an old habit and habits are very much a part of a dogs life.
Same with humans.
We create habits or patterns that we adhere to day in and day out. It helps us conserve energy because we don’t have to put a lot of thought into it. It lets us be on auto-pilot so we can call up anything new and creative.
When we are purposefully changing our life, we must change our set patterns.
This doesn’t mean every single pattern needs to change, but patterns are energy and that energy is set within us physically, emotionally, psychically.
The patterns that might have once been positive for us are no longer serving us. Our transition– that change we’re trying to accomplish– allows us to evolve, to move forward and grow.
When mental and physical patterns have been set for a long period of time, it creates a psychic wall which keeps new positive experiences from entering. This is what causes that “stuck” feeling.
Those stuck feelings don’t feel good.
* I’m not worthy of anything better
* If he/she can’t love me, who can?
* If I don’t have that job by now, it’ll never happen.
* My body/health has always been this way, I can’t change it.
* Can’t teach an old dog new tricks (hmmm…wonder where that saying came from!)
How do we get unstuck?
How to change the patterns in your life and in your environment so it creates change within you:
One way is to realize what pattern we need to stop or reset.
This can be tough as we’re so close to what we do out of habit that we can’t always see that it’s no longer working or needed.
Kinda like my dog running into the master bedroom last night.
I had a pattern of stopping any success in my life. As soon as I started down any road that was successful, he’d start something—an affair, being disconnected or some negative action. So, I’d pull back, spend more time with him, put my energy into him, see him as all important, so on and so forth.
Pulling back became a pattern, so much so that I didn’t even realize I was doing it. Internally, I had a message that said, “If you go off and do this, you can’t keep an eye on him and he’ll be able to get into all kinds of trouble.”
I’d pull back from social outings with friends, from working longer hours to get things done, etc.
I got good at closing myself off from success.
He’s no longer here. I don’t need to pull back anymore. But just like my dog, I was stuck in that pattern.
The best way to spot a no-longer-useful pattern is to watch your daily activities and your dreams. When you ask to be shown the patterns you need to change, the Universe will help point it out—pay attention.
( btw—dogs in our dreams can symbolize habits)
The other thing to do is to create a change for your physical senses.
The energy of something new, places a marker, so to speak, on our energy.
- Try a new food.
- Wear something you’d normally not wear.
- Buy a scented candle in a scent you don’t normally buy.
- Buy something in a completely different color than what you usually like.
- Rearrange your routine—shower before bed instead of in the morning, go to bed at a different time, don’t watch the same TV shows.
- Rearrange your furniture.
- Take a new route to work.
- Try a new exercise.
- Clean out a drawer you haven’t opened in ages.
We tend to do what is “comforting” during a time of transition (which is good) but to change a pattern, we should try something that is typically out of our comfort zone.
Do the new thing more than once or do something completely new and different for a whole week.
The other thing to do AS YOU DO THE NEW: Write out an affirmation about the NEW YOU and say it, think on it, visualize it, AS you go about the new thing.
The affirmation can be as simple as: “I expect new, positive changes in my life.”
Or, “Anything that has been can be changed.”
I’ll be listing and posting about my new things.
Is there something you’d like to change?